Orton Sackett, Minnie

Orton Sackett, Minnie

Female 1847 - 1932  (~ 84 years)

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  • Name Orton Sackett, Minnie 
    Born Dec 1847  Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [1, 2
    Gender Female 
    Census 16 Sep 1850  Southwark, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [2
    Died 27 Mar 1932  Wayland, Middlesex County, Massachusetts, USA Find all individuals with events at this location 
    Person ID I34511  Sackett | Descendants of Thomas Sacket the Elder, Simon Sackett the Colonist
    Last Modified 29 Dec 2018 

    Father Sackett, Gen. William,   b. 16 Apr 1839, Seneca Falls, Seneca, New York, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 14 Jun 1864, near Trevillians, Louisa County, Virginia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 25 years) 
    Relationship Adopted 
    Mother Sisselburger, Sarah Ann,   b. 13 Feb 1832, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 6 Feb 1911, Denver, Denver County, Colorado, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 78 years) 
    Relationship Birth 
    Married 27 Nov 1862  Washington, District of Columbia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location 
    • 25 Nov 1862 date taken from Anna's "Widow's Declaration for Pension" in which she states that her name before marriage was Mrs. Anna Amodier.
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      Married in Epiphany Parish, Washington D. C.; Rev. Carles B. Hall, Rector; recorded 27 Nov 1862. Name given as Anna Modio:
      "I Wm Pitt Shearman Gegister of Epihany Parish in the City of Washington, D.C. do hereby certify that the marriage of Colonel William Sackett with Anna Modio on the twenty seventh day of November, A.D one thousand eight hundred and sixty two is duly recorded in the Register of Marriages of said Parish, attested by the signature of the officiating clergyman, Rev. Chas B. Hall, D.D.
      Witness my hand and the
      Common Seal of the Vestry this
      Sixth day of August, A.D. 1864
      Wm Pitt Shearman
      Register"
    Col. William Sackett and his wife, Sarah
    Col. William Sackett and his wife, Sarah
    Picture of Col. William Sackett and his wife sold on EBay Jan-03-04
    Children
    1. Orton Sackett, Minnie,   b. Dec 1847, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 27 Mar 1932, Wayland, Middlesex County, Massachusetts, USA Find all individuals with events at this location
     
    Family ID F1201  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Father Orton, Thomas Norman,   b. 13 Feb 1827, Lewes, Sussex County, Delaware, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 8 Sep 1854, Charleston, Charleston County, South Carolina, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 27 years) 
    Relationship Birth 
    Mother Sisselburger, Sarah Ann,   b. 13 Feb 1832, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 6 Feb 1911, Denver, Denver County, Colorado, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 78 years) 
    Relationship Birth 
    Married 13 Sep 1847  Philadelphia County, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [3, 4
    Children
    1. Orton Sackett, Minnie,   b. Dec 1847, Pennsylvania, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 27 Mar 1932, Wayland, Middlesex County, Massachusetts, USA Find all individuals with events at this location
     
    Family ID F12303  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Family 1 Parker, Ely Samuel,   b. 1828, Indian Falls, Genesee, New York, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 31 Aug 1895, Fairfield, Fairfield County, Connecticut, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age 67 years) 
    Married 24 Dec 1867  Washington, District of Columbia, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  [5
    • The "Real Story" Behind the Marriage of Ely S. Parker and Minnie Orton Sackett
      http://www.pbs.org/warrior/noflash/index.html

      On December 13, 1867, a Washington D.C. newspaper reported that "Col. Ely S. Parker, Chief of the Six Nations, is to be married on Thursday next to a pale faced daughter of the late Col. Sackett. The friends of Col. P. will congratulate him, and wish him success in his new relation."

      There are no hard facts, only speculation about how, when, and where Ely and Minnie first met. It is known that in 1864, Minnie's mother Anna visited General Grant's headquarters to ascertain the whereabouts of her husband, a Union soldier who had been wounded in a Civil War battle (she later learned Colonel William Sackett had died). It is also known that Anna and Minnie were prominent members of Washington D.C.'s social elite; Minnie was said to be one of that city's more beautiful belles, tall, slim and vivacious, with brilliant eyes and dark brown hair. She could have met Ely at one of many soirees hosted at the Sackett home, but apparently few knew of the liaison, for the announcement of their betrothal stunned the city.

      "It was a big surprise to everyone. He was a 39-year-old bachelor, and the announcement was that he would marry this 18-year-old socialite, who was white. Minnie's father had been killed in the war, and because she had no one to give her away, General Grant was going to do the honors; quite an affair!"

      William Armstrong
      Parker Biographer

      Minnie's wedding gown was the creation of Madame Demorest's salon on Pennsylvania Avenue, and Ely Parker borrowed a military sash from General Grant to embellish his wedding suit. The nuptials were scheduled for Tuesday, December 17, at the Episcopal Church of the Epiphany, and although hundreds showed up to watch, Ely Parker wasn't one of them. The would-be bride was said to be in tears and her mother in a passion, and news of the scandal quickly spread to national newspapers.

      From The New York Times 12/18/1867:

      "MYSTERIOUS DISAPPEARANCE
      The city is startled tonight with a thousand conflicting rumors regarding the disappearance of Col. ELY PARKER, of General GRANT's staff, who was to have been married this morning at 10:30 o'clock to MISS MINNIE SACKETT, of this city. It seems that Col. PARKER had made every preparation for the event, even to the issuing of reception cards for his friends in New York at the Metropolitan Hotel, and at his residence in Washington after his return from the expected bridal tour. He had purchased his wedding suit, and on Saturday evening went to General GRANT's house, where he borrowed from Mrs. GRANT one of the General's military sashes to wear at the wedding. After remaining an hour or two, at 8:30 he bid the family goodnight, since which time he has not been seen in the city. At the appointed hour this morning the bride's mother, who is a widow, General GRANT and staff, and a large number of friends and distinguished guests were assembled at the Church of the Epiphany. The bride was in readiness, and General GRANT was prepared to give her away in accordance with the arrangements made at Col. PARKER's request. The groomsman, however, failed to make his appearance. His fellow-officers of the staff had arranged to make the bride an elegant present, and other friends were ready to make appropriate wedding gifts. The scene which ensued when it became known that Col. PARKER could not be found, can be faintly imagined, but the pen fails to describe it fitly. Messengers were dispatched to the usual resorts of the missing one, and when the report came that all search was in vain, the audience quietly dispersed with many heartfelt prayers for the lady so cruelly deserted. All search to-day has proved fruitless, but up to a late hour to-night no tidings of Col. PARKER have been received. Meantime there are rumors current that he was seen in Baltimore this morning; that his body had been found under the ice in the Potomac, and, again, that he was married to another person in Buffalo this day. Miss SACKETT's friends are doing everything in their power to console her terrible affliction, and express a hope that the mystery may yet be cleared up in a satisfactory manner. The sympathy of the entire community is enlisted in the lady's behalf."

      "There were all kinds of reports in the newspapers about what happened to this poor man. Parker's sister Carrie even telegramed from New York State asking, "Has anything been heard from my brother?" Then two days later he turned up, and the story that he has was that one of the New York Indians had met him before the wedding, and invited him in for a drink, and when Ely woke up, the fellow told him that he (Ely) was sick, and gave him some medicine. But in fact his friend drugged him. One of the traditional teachings of Handsome Lake (19th century Haudenosaunee prophet) was that there should not be intermarriages with other races. So it's conceivable that someone in fact opposed this marriage."

      William Armstrong
      Parker Biographer

      Parker's Civil War compatriots had a different theory. Horace Porter wrote that, "Parker has disgraced us more than usual. He was to have been married to Miss Minnie Sackett?but instead of appearing, he went on his habitual four days drunk?" Another friend asked if anyone had yet "caught and bottled up the Indians that captured Parker?"

      "Well, he came back, he never really apologized or explained, except I assume, to Minnie, and maybe Minnie's mother. They rescheduled the wedding. It was going to be again, at the Episcopal Church in Washington D.C. Tremendous interest now, some 3-thousand people gathered, saw the decorations going up, but when the people asked, the church attendants said, oh no, we're decorating for mass tomorrow, that marriage took place last night. It was done privately, Grant did give Minnie away, then she and Ely left for New York City and Rochester for a honeymoon."

      William Armstrong
      Parker Biographer

      "They were a happy couple, but they never escaped social scrutiny in Washington. Ely and Minnie were the subject of all kinds of gossip; one woman was even quoted to have said that the only thing that came out of their marriage was the fact that they had yet to produce an "half breeds." Society really objected to this interracial marriage, and Minnie at one time responded by saying that she was deeply in love with Ely. She didn't marry him because he was an Indian, in fact she didn't really like Indians."

      Jare Cardinal
      Rochester Museum & Science Center
    Children 
     1. Parker, Maud Theresa,   b. 1878, Fairfield, Fairfield County, Connecticut, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. Unknown
    Last Modified 29 Dec 2018 
    Family ID F19613  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

    Family 2 Van Rensselaer, James Tallmadge,   b. Abt 1842, Manhattan, New York City, New York County, New York, USA Find all individuals with events at this location,   d. 28 Aug 1899, Boston, Suffolk County, Massachusetts, USA Find all individuals with events at this location  (Age ~ 57 years) 
    Married 1897 
    Last Modified 29 Dec 2018 
    Family ID F19616  Group Sheet  |  Family Chart

  • Event Map
    Link to Google MapsBorn - Dec 1847 - Pennsylvania, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsMarried - 24 Dec 1867 - Washington, District of Columbia, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsChild - Parker, Maud Theresa - 1878 - Fairfield, Fairfield County, Connecticut, USA Link to Google Earth
    Link to Google MapsDied - 27 Mar 1932 - Wayland, Middlesex County, Massachusetts, USA Link to Google Earth
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  • Notes 
    • The Biography of Minnie Orton Sackett
      http://www.pbs.org/warrior/content/bio/minnie.html

      Minnie Orton Sackett

      In 1867, Minnie Orton Sackett was a "friendly" and "vivacious" 18-year-old, said to be one of Washington D.C.'s more beautiful belles. She and her mother Anna were prominent members of that city's social whirl, and it is most likely that Minnie met Ely Parker at one of many soirees held at the Sackett house.

      Not much is known of Minnie's early years. Her biological parents were Sarah A. Penton, and a Thomas H. Orton, who at some time took a second wife, Anna Sessilberg. After Orton's death, Anna married William Sackett, a Brevet Brigadier General of the Ninth New York Cavalry. In 1864, Sackett was wounded in a Civil War battle in Virginia, and Anna journeyed to General Grant's City Point headquarters, hoping someone there had information about his whereabouts and well being. Mrs. Sackett's request to enter Confederate lines was denied. She returned home and later learned her husband had indeed perished.
      Minnie Orton Sackett Parker
      Minnie Orton Sackett Parker

      Ely Parker once said Minnie Sackett was the love of his life. Their marriage lasted from 1867 to Parker's death in 1895, and was said to be one of mutual happiness. The couple had one child, Maud Theresa, who was born in 1878 when Minnie was 28 and Ely was 50.

      Ely Parker's death in 1895 left his wife with few financial resources. As a war veteran's widow, Minnie was eligible to receive only $8.00 a month from a pension fund, so she sold most of Ely's belongings: his personal papers, his library, and even his silver Red Jacket medal (now in the archives of the Buffalo Erie County Historical Society). Salvation of sorts came from the Loyal Legion whose members paid $2,000.00 for Ely's copy of the Appomattox surrender terms, and later Congress stepped in with special action, increasing Minnie's pension payment to $30.00 a month.

      In 1897, Mrs. Parker's situation improved dramatically when she agreed to marry James Tallmadge Van Rensselaer. The engagement "caused no end of a flutter of surprise in society," according to a reporter from the New York Press. "No one suspected that the 'confirmed old bachelor' would at last decide to take unto himself a wife. But such is the case, and Mr. Van Rensselaer looks beaming and happy." Unfortunately, two years after that announcement Minnie was again a widow; this time, she was left with considerable financial resources. After her daughter Maud Parker married and moved to Wayland, Massachusetts, Minnie followed, moving in with the newlyweds. Although she often took trips to visit friends in New York and Boston, Minnie was said to be equally at home attending Wayland's sedate tea parties. She died in 1932, at age 82.

      Researched by Ted Smith

  • Sources 
    1. [S954] 1900 U.S. Census.

    2. [S506] 1850 U.S. Census (Reliability: 3), 27 Dec 2018.
      1850 Census, enumerated 16 Sep 1850 in Southwark, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States

      Thomas Orton M 23 Delaware
      Sarah Orton F 19 Pennsylvania
      Georgiana Orton F 2 Pennsylvania
      Ann S*Bury F 33 New Jersey

      "United States Census, 1850," database with images, FamilySearch (https://familysearch.org/ark:/61903/1:1:M4C5-MFJ : 12 April 2016), Thomas Orton, Southwark, ward 2, Philadelphia, Pennsylvania, United States; citing family 1175, NARA microfilm publication M432 (Washington, D.C.: National Archives and Records Administration, n.d.).

      Researched by Ted Smith

    3. [S506] 1850 U.S. Census, Calculated from birth of 1st child (Reliability: 3).

    4. [S1047] Pennsylvania, Marriages, 1709-1940, (https://familysearch.org/).
      https://familysearch.org/pal:/MM9.1.1/V26R-4L4
      Pennsylvania, Marriages, 1709-1940
      Name: Thomas N. Orton
      Spouse's Name: Sarah Ann Sisselburger
      Event Date: 13 Sep 1847
      Event Place: Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
      Indexing Project (Batch) Number: M32035-4
      System Origin: Pennsylvania-ODM
      GS Film number: 1463127

    5. [S1225] GenealogyBank.com (Reliability: 3), 27 Dec 2018.
      Daily Inter Ocean (Chicago, Illinois), 25 Dec 1867, page 2

      Miss Minnie Sackett, the lady to whom Col. Parker, the Indian, was married, yesterday, at Washington, is a daughter of Amodio, the singer. After his death her mother married Col. Sackett, of Oneida county, N.Y., and is a widow for a second time, Col. S. having been killed in Virginia during the war. Miss Sackett is nineteen years of age, and is said to be very handsome.

      Transcribed by Ted Smith


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